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Realizing your mother used you as a tools for her means to an end


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 2 months ago '16        #136
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aquisite04  topics gone triple plat - Number 1 spot x10
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@ 09:23 PM 05-18-2024 Realizing your mother used you as a tools for her means to an end
 

 
Now I understand why my father and my brother's father's as well as all the males that I seen growing up aren't around my mother anymore.

She wants to be a woman king & control people/situations yet has no knowledge or no healthy moral/spiritual compass of reliable direction

I blindly attempted to protect and put myself in the way of danger for this female for decades... from a child to even this this very day but it stops now!!! I admittedly took on a lot of her traits, beliefs, mentality & behavior but I rebuke all of those demonic ways.

When that very same person that you're protecting betrays you & continuously talks about your business to people she just meet and desperate for caucasian assimilation/validation.. she is no good anymore.

A person that shows how they are truly spiteful, vindictive, petty, emotionally unstable, unaccountable, a gas lighter, manipulative, ungrateful & ignorant.. you must leave their presence for your own peace and sanity.

When she only respects people who can be a financial benefit to her and play whatever role it takes to gain more finances thru deception and manipulation.. that person is a demon.

When you bring strange men around your children for your own selfish s3xual tingles to get satisfied.. you ain't sh1t.

If more than one male hits on you & it's a pattern.. it's not just the males, its you too because thats what you attract

Once I broke thru the emotional attachment, gaslighting, emotional manipulation, programming, deception, brainwashing, conditioning, narcissism, entitlement and victimhood in protecting her... I see how trifling and self serving she is.

She did the thing all abusers do... Isolate then commit emotional,verbal and physical abuse while Buying things to attempt to cover up their abuse and quiet you..to get you to believe their perspective & ulterior motives.. that's an evil person

When your looked at as a tool to achieve their agenda towards a means to an end vs a human being & a child... that person ain't sh1t.

When a person talks down about a child's father in front of said child(ren), that says alot about their lack of character, morals, principles and integrity..

When that leads to a child resenting their father or a father resenting their son because they see her in their son.. that's a damn shame.

A person that's always the victim and skirts unaccountability thru weaponized tears and the whoa is me antics.. that person is not fit for any relationship

When a person blatantly puts division between siblings, that's not someone who should have kids.

A person that's jealous of her own daughters and punches them as well as projects her bitterness of men on her son's.. that's not someone who should have kids.

Shout-out to the selfless healthy men and women who're truly the embodiment of great parents out there.. you are appreciated greatly.


Last edited by aquisite04; 05-18-2024 at 09:26 PM..
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 2 months ago '23        #135
Yopa 
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Never tell females anything or do dirt around females because they will talk about it .if you have a positive personality stay away from evil people even tho their your blood
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 2 months ago '18        #134
cube886 
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 AmillionMo said
Why put this sh1t on BX?
n1ggaÖyou wanna read 200 more Drake vs Kendrick threads
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Itís good to see what others are going through and to learn more about it or us rather.

Yes essentially he should forgive his mother. Also worth noting that some people (Mother and Father ) seem to think for themselves when having kids. Not saying thatís you OP but you never know.
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 2 months ago '23        #133
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 NAKHI ALLAH said
Sorry b no points for you.
No matter what never talk about ma dukes in a bad light



If the bi#ch is trash then sheís trash, go on somewhere with this.
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 2 months ago '23        #132
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That’s narcissistic bi#ches for you.
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 2 months ago '17        #131
CamburyBXGreat 
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Sorry bruh
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 2 months ago '23        #130
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 AmillionMo said
Why put this sh1t on BX? Smh...so you're judging your mother for who she is but not thinking about WHY she is who she is. WHO made her like this? She needs help and therapy, just like you and the people who this was done to

That’s not his fault or problem, somebody hurting her doesn’t give her an excuse to hurt others let alone her fu#king kids.
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 2 months ago '15        #129
AmillionMo  topics gone triple plat - Number 1 spot x3
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Why put this sh1t on BX? Dudes aren't mature enough for this type of sh1t, Smh...so you're judging your mother for who she is but not thinking about WHY she is who she is. WHO made her like this? She needs help and therapy, just like you and the people who this was done to


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 2 months ago '15        #128
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Sad to say. But she did the best she could with what she had. I know that may sound insane. But just see it like that.
Parents are like busses. They are only supposed to get us here, son. The rest is up to us.
I’m glad you finally see what’s what. But don’t allow it to stop you from loving your moms. Just love her from a place that’s entirely healthy for you. Choose your peace and happiness.
And even if you don’t want to admit it now, totally condemning her won’t make you happy.

You did the best you could with what you knew. Now that you know, you do better. I hope you heal famo. Aid your siblings to do that same.

Focus on your higher vibration only. Don’t reach for sh1t else. Those that are in harmony with that will be drawn to you. Even if they aren’t fully on that path. They won’t reject whatever you tell them to place them there. They will be in a place to receive. Those that aren’t. There’s nothing you can do. You will always miss each other. But see them through loving eyes anyway.

I too am still learning this sh1t I typed uptop. But word to my dead, I believe in it.

Peace brethren.
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 2 months ago '10        #127
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I know what this sh1t feels like and sometimes in moments like this those who are speaking about it are just trying to get sh1t off their chest. They just want to be heard...

Let me start of by saying to you...

I hear you, and understand you.

and I mean that from the bottom of my soul

I hear you, i see you, I understand it

I'm not judging you, nor scolding you, nor trying to make you see sh1t another way for the time being...

Just know homie that in your low moments, if this was the only avenue for you to get off what you feel off your chest, what you need to let go? just know there is also someone out here in the world reading it and coming from a position of openness and understanding.

The first step is talking about it and letting the weight roll off your soul, and you did that here.


Last edited by RedLight; 05-19-2024 at 01:22 AM..
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 2 months ago '19        #126
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 2 months ago '24        #125
Wolfase 
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I fell out with my mother 2 years ago. We might not have the same issues but I can understand the anger.

Your own mother stabbing you in the back is a different type of hurt. sh1t will having you questioning your whole life.
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 2 months ago '23        #124
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 NAKHI ALLAH said
True but never air your mom's out like that, only to close family members


A lot of times close family members be enablers or abusers themselves, hence why people feel the need to go public with these issues to begin with.
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 2 months ago '05        #123
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One of the biggest downfalls in our community is allowing our women to avoid the negative accountability in relationships, marriages, teaching us in the school system, raising us as kids, ect.

By default, we are programed to constantly project the wrongs on the man while putting the positives on the women and making them first when they are wrong. If you cant see how this dynamic has destroyed our community, you will never get it.
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 2 months ago '17        #122
Jackie Chiles 
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My mother died two days after my 6th birthday.

Be grateful for the things you might take for granted.

I hope you can reconcile the relationship with your mother.

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 2 months ago '23        #121
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 AmillionMo said
Oh, I agree that isn't his problem but it definitely does give her an excuse. Now, no one has to accept the excuse but I understand her actions a bit more. Especially when you don't know the resources to get help or may not even have the mental capabilities to do so. It's fu#ked up how our brains are.

We look at R. Kelly and call him a monster because he seems like just another regular man but do you understand that his older sister was fu#king him. fu#ked up his mind so bad that he was stuck at the age when she 1st fu#ked him! That's why the nicca can't fu#king read. He don't have certain basic skills that we have. The nicca is actually autistic. That's why he can make music like he does without writing anything down. Yet, we judge these people on our scales.

This guy's mother is fu#ked up and he is fu#ked up too. The sh1t doesn't belong on BX is all I'm saying. We can't help him with sh1t like this...




True, but sometimes listening is the best help you can give a person.
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 2 months ago '04        #120
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Women like that know how to play the perpetual game that no one but them seem to be playing.

It's good you're getting it out sometimes you need a space to vent bottled up things.

Most these dudes love v@gina so much they've become one so you'll get a lot of push back from exposing female nature.

There's always excuses for their behavior and poor decision making that's the main reason they act that way because they know they can get away with it.
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 2 months ago '10        #119
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 NAKHI ALLAH said
Sorry b no points for you.
No matter what never talk about ma dukes in a bad light
Moms arenít above reproach.
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 2 months ago '08        #118
Kewop Decam  topics gone triple plat - Number 1 spot x1
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 AmillionMo said
Why put this sh1t on BX? Smh...so you're judging your mother for who she is but not thinking about WHY she is who she is. WHO made her like this? She needs help and therapy, just like you and the people who this was done to
Naaaaaah, his mother is a grown adult and ďwho did this to herĒ is a cop out for her not solving her own problems to not spread the bullsh1t.

It may not be her fault but itís 100% her responsibility to fix.

How men jump to the defense of the BS some women do is wild. And with that they claim our men donít protect our women when reality we protect them from everything even down to their own selfish bullsh1t ways.

Crazy
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 2 months ago '18        #117
shooter  topics gone triple plat - Number 1 spot x36
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Damn, sorry you're experiencing that bruh.

All imma say is when a man has a manipulative/narcissistic mother, therapy isn't optional, it's a necessary step in life. Don't run from that or be ashamed of it g.

MOST of the worst versions of men we see in society are men who were abused in some way by their mothers and never got the help they needed.

Hope you find healing.
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 2 months ago '23        #116
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 Tobinmont said
Sad to say. But she did the best she could with what she had. I know that may sound insane. But just see it like that.
Parents are like busses. They are only supposed to get us here, son. The rest is up to us.
I’m glad you finally see what’s what. But don’t allow it to stop you from loving your moms. Just love her from a place that’s entirely healthy for you. Choose your peace and happiness.
And even if you don’t want to admit it now, totally condemning her won’t make you happy.

You did the best you could with what you knew. Now that you know, you do better. I hope you heal famo. Aid your siblings to do that same.

Focus on your higher vibration only. Don’t reach for sh1t else. Those that are in harmony with that will be drawn to you. Even if they aren’t fully on that path. They won’t reject whatever you tell them to place them there. They will be in a place to receive. Those that aren’t. There’s nothing you can do. You will always miss each other. But see them through loving eyes anyway.

I too am still learning this sh1t I typed uptop. But word to my dead, I believe in it.

Peace brethren.





Turning siblings against each other was doing the best she could?



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 2 months ago '17        #115
DrOTGenesis 
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Women are manipulative. It’s in their nature. I hope you learn from this and ultimately learn how to manage the women in your life.

They will always be manipulative and it’s never going to change. Being a man also entails knowing this and using this to your advantage.
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 2 months ago '15        #114
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I thought Most of the older generation had kids so they can rewrite their wrongs and put the kid through work so they can retire em or help em when they get old. A lot of the Mexican households are built off a plantation mentality here, they could barely make ends meet but have 5 kids hoping they hit the lotto with at least one...
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 2 months ago '16        #113
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 NAKHI ALLAH said
True but never air your mom's out like that, only to close family members
We donít know these people. This is probably the safest place for him to air his grievances and possibly find the strength to forgive his mother (for his own sake).

He isnít the only one going through it.
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 2 months ago '05        #112
bi0  topics gone triple plat - Number 1 spot x10
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Props for being to collect your thoughts and process your feelings and put into words.
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