They claim they want a "good man", and I wholeheartedly believe they do, but what wasn't obvious to me early on in the game was what they wanted him for. A "good man" is responsible, and they want to have spontaneous (expensive) fun. A "good man" is a provider, and they want someone who is around & available for their every want & desire. A "good man" isn't controlled, nor does he seek to control, but they want to operate him as if he can be remote controlled: turn him on when they want, turn him off if they choose to, and then turn him back on when they're ready. If he doesn't work the way they expect to be able to work him, then he's considered broken, and therefore replaceable. It's logical though, no? If she put new batteries in his back, and he still isn't executing according to the signals she's sending, then it's time for a new dude.

The 1st thing they think of when they realize you're not going to put your hands on them seems to be "how far can I push him". They're going to test you, just as you test them, especially early on. We want to see how crazy they are, and they want to see how much we can be controlled. We'll both try to keep the masks up, but when we date they'll slip here & there. She'll let you get a glimpse of her crazy, and you'll eventually tell her you feel differently about something she wants, but for those 1st couple of months you'll get the absolute best version of her she has to offer, and she'll be calling all the plays like a head coach, with her single homegirls playing the roles of offensive & defensive coordinators.

You just think y'all are having fun, but that's the bait. She can't control fun, that's too even of a playing field, with us men having the slight advantage of being able to separate emotions from physical affection better. So she wants a relationship, and may offer an ultimatum if she doesn't see any sense of urgency in you.

Y'all date, and you fall for moving in together, and eventually she starts throwing ideas of marriage around like poisonous darts, but by this point you already see that coming. You've already decided on whether to marry her when y'all began dating. Not because you want to get married, because no man in his right mind wants to get married, but you made your decision regarding if she seems worth the headache that she will undoubtedly be.

By the time y'all are engaged, you'll see all the red flags that you need to see to know it's time to exit stage left, but that mask hasn't come completely off yet, so you're hoping that you've overestimated her crazy, and that you'll be able to deal with what you already have witnessed.

You get married, and it's all downhill from there. You'll have the "honeymoon phase", and this is what they're referring to when they later tell you "it's not the same". This is referred to as a phase for a reason. It's not expected to be a constant, it's expected to pass. Whatever foundation you built your relationship on is supposed to get you thru the rest of the marriage after that part of it has passed.

They'll be talks of offspring before they begin to pop up, hopefully. If y'all decide to have kids, that mask will come completely off by the time she's halfway thru pregnancy. She can finally relax and be her whole self. You will now hear things you've never heard before, you'll see things you never thought you'd see, and you'll wonder if this is the same individual you married. Kid comes, and they will take up the time you'd otherwise be using to come to your senses, so certain feelings you begin to have will have to take a backseat.

Fast forward a few years, and you're searching the house high & low for her mask, so she can put it back on. She doesn't even bother to wear it anymore, and she says things are different. Well you've still allowed her to be the shot caller at times, and now she calls BS on the marriage: You don't love her, you don't want to be with her, and you gave her self esteem issues. She's under the interpretation that you are responsible for her happiness, and if she isn't happy then that's your fault. That's where a lot of us get it wrong. Everybody is responsible for their own happiness. We are supposed to add to what's already there, but we're not responsible for pre-existing insufficiencies.

My wife has her master's in psychology, and I'm just a smart dumb n1gga...so I never stood a chance from the get go





Edit: good 'ol Boxden, slap a n1gga while he's down (pause)

Op I’m glad you got that off your chest. It’s ok…

Just keep moving…

Thank u

Congrats/sorry that happened

No not all is the same….n1ggas be going thru it.

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l3altimore7 said 🔗 They claim they want a "good man", and I wholeheartedly believe they do, but what wasn't obvious to me early on in the game was what they wanted him for. A "good man" is responsible, and they want to have spontaneous (expensive) fun. A "good man" is a provider, and they want someone who is around & available for their every want & desire. A "good man" isn't controlled, nor does he seek to control, but they want to operate him as if he can be remote controlled: turn him on when they want, turn him off if they choose to, and then turn him back on when they're ready. If he doesn't work the way they expect to be able to work him, then he's considered broken, and therefore replaceable. It's logical though, no? If she put new batteries in his back, and he still isn't executing according to the signals she's sending, then it's time for a new dude. The 1st thing they think of when they realize you're not going to put your hands on them seems to be "how far can I push him". They're going to test you, just as you test them, especially early on. We want to see how crazy they are, and they want to see how much we can be controlled. We'll both try to keep the masks up, but when we date they'll slip here & there. She'll let you get a glimpse of her crazy, and you'll eventually tell her you feel differently about something she wants, but for those 1st couple of months you'll get the absolute best version of her she has to offer, and she'll be calling all the plays like a head coach, with her single homegirls playing the roles of offensive & defensive coordinators. You just think y'all are having fun, but that's the bait. She can't control fun, that's too even of a playing field, with us men having the slight advantage of being able to separate emotions from physical affection better. So she wants a relationship, and may offer an ultimatum if she doesn't see any sense of urgency in you. Y'all date, and you fall for moving in together, and eventually she starts throwing ideas of marriage around like poisonous darts, but by this point you already see that coming. You've already decided on whether to marry her when y'all began dating. Not because you want to get married, because no man in his right mind wants to get married, but you made your decision regarding if she seems worth the headache that she will undoubtedly be. By the time y'all are engaged, you'll see all the red flags that you need to see to know it's time to exit stage left, but that mask hasn't come completely off yet, so you're hoping that you've overestimated her crazy, and that you'll be able to deal with what you already have witnessed. You get married, and it's all downhill from there. You'll have the "honeymoon phase", and this is what they're referring to when they later tell you "it's not the same". This is referred to as a phase for a reason. It's not expected to be a constant, it's expected to pass. Whatever foundation you built your relationship on is supposed to get you thru the rest of the marriage after that part of it has passed. They'll be talks of offspring before they begin to pop up, hopefully. If y'all decide to have kids, that mask will come completely off by the time she's halfway thru pregnancy. She can finally relax and be her whole self. You will now hear things you've never heard before, you'll see things you never thought you'd see, and you'll wonder if this is the same individual you married. Kid comes, and they will take up the time you'd otherwise be using to come to your senses, so certain feelings you begin to have will have to take a backseat. Fast forward a few years, and you're searching the house high & low for her mask, so she can put it back on. She doesn't even bother to wear it anymore, and she says things are different. Well you've still allowed her to be the shot caller at times, and now she calls BS on the marriage: You don't love her, you don't want to be with her, and you gave her self esteem issues. She's under the interpretation that you are responsible for her happiness, and if she isn't happy then that's your fault. That's where a lot of us get it wrong. Everybody is responsible for their own happiness. We are supposed to add to what's already there, but we're not responsible for pre-existing insufficiencies.

I can say I’ve experienced something very similar myself …

As real as it gets...

I really hope none of ya go down this route and if you choose to get in a long-term relationship that that woman truly loves you, but this story is a lot more common that one thinks.

Stay focused

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l3altimore7 said 🔗 They claim they want a "good man", and I wholeheartedly believe they do, but what wasn't obvious to me early on in the game was what they wanted him for. A "good man" is responsible, and they want to have spontaneous (expensive) fun. A "good man" is a provider, and they want someone who is around & available for their every want & desire. A "good man" isn't controlled, nor does he seek to control, but they want to operate him as if he can be remote controlled: turn him on when they want, turn him off if they choose to, and then turn him back on when they're ready. If he doesn't work the way they expect to be able to work him, then he's considered broken, and therefore replaceable. It's logical though, no? If she put new batteries in his back, and he still isn't executing according to the signals she's sending, then it's time for a new dude. The 1st thing they think of when they realize you're not going to put your hands on them seems to be "how far can I push him". They're going to test you, just as you test them, especially early on. We want to see how crazy they are, and they want to see how much we can be controlled. We'll both try to keep the masks up, but when we date they'll slip here & there. She'll let you get a glimpse of her crazy, and you'll eventually tell her you feel differently about something she wants, but for those 1st couple of months you'll get the absolute best version of her she has to offer, and she'll be calling all the plays like a head coach, with her single homegirls playing the roles of offensive & defensive coordinators. You just think y'all are having fun, but that's the bait. She can't control fun, that's too even of a playing field, with us men having the slight advantage of being able to separate emotions from physical affection better. So she wants a relationship, and may offer an ultimatum if she doesn't see any sense of urgency in you. Y'all date, and you fall for moving in together, and eventually she starts throwing ideas of marriage around like poisonous darts, but by this point you already see that coming. You've already decided on whether to marry her when y'all began dating. Not because you want to get married, because no man in his right mind wants to get married, but you made your decision regarding if she seems worth the headache that she will undoubtedly be. By the time y'all are engaged, you'll see all the red flags that you need to see to know it's time to exit stage left, but that mask hasn't come completely off yet, so you're hoping that you've overestimated her crazy, and that you'll be able to deal with what you already have witnessed. You get married, and it's all downhill from there. You'll have the "honeymoon phase", and this is what they're referring to when they later tell you "it's not the same". This is referred to as a phase for a reason. It's not expected to be a constant, it's expected to pass. Whatever foundation you built your relationship on is supposed to get you thru the rest of the marriage after that part of it has passed. They'll be talks of offspring before they begin to pop up, hopefully. If y'all decide to have kids, that mask will come completely off by the time she's halfway thru pregnancy. She can finally relax and be her whole self. You will now hear things you've never heard before, you'll see things you never thought you'd see, and you'll wonder if this is the same individual you married. Kid comes, and they will take up the time you'd otherwise be using to come to your senses, so certain feelings you begin to have will have to take a backseat. Fast forward a few years, and you're searching the house high & low for her mask, so she can put it back on. She doesn't even bother to wear it anymore, and she says things are different. Well you've still allowed her to be the shot caller at times, and now she calls BS on the marriage: You don't love her, you don't want to be with her, and you gave her self esteem issues. She's under the interpretation that you are responsible for her happiness, and if she isn't happy then that's your fault. That's where a lot of us get it wrong. Everybody is responsible for their own happiness. We are supposed to add to what's already there, but we're not responsible for pre-existing insufficiencies.

Slapped

Live for yourself

Everything else will fix itself

Keep moving forward

Leave the ruminating alone

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These h0es ain’t sh1t and they never will be.

Always remember that and you’ll never fail.

Goat book by a woman on the true nature of women.

zone3cp said 🔗 No not all is the same….n1ggas be going thru it.

n1ggas be attracted to only ain't sh1t bi#ches then be like "all women is the same". Yea bruh that's yo type

@🔗, I hope getting that off your chest makes you feel better.

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Snoop and Dre told us a long time ago

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yunghuss973 said 🔗 These h0es ain’t sh1t and they never will be. Always remember that and you’ll never fail.

Exactly. Their lives revolve around bullsh1t emotions, meaningless s3x, lies and attention.

Going through a lot of personal sh1t right now. This hit home OP

Bruh aint no need stressing out over these h0es… they dont know what they really want.. just focus on you for right now, stay fit and stack more paper..

zone3cp said 🔗 No not all is the same….n1ggas be going thru it.

Exactly. They just need to learn how to be selective and choose wisely. It’s women out there that love being a woman serving their man. And you ain’t gotta go to some 3rd world country. Just tell them straight up what you want.

This story sounds typical, but not one time did I see the man telling the woman what he wants. Just complaining.

EverythingWith2 said 🔗 n1ggas be attracted to only ain't sh1t bi#ches then be like "all women is the same". Yea bruh that's yo type

Gonna say unfortunately this sht true too…
One can have attracted and be attracted these loser biches and fool themself “nah she not like that”…


I did it for years.. it became a pattern , and for some dumb reason I didn’t see until I took shrooms. It’s not you, it’s these corrupted biches you settle for. I’m not saying good ones aren’t out there.. but choose wisely.. this is years of your life being involved.

Definitely experienced this, but luckily I never married the bi#ch. But we do share an 18-month-old daughter together. Them dropping the mask during pregnancy is definitely a real thing.

Luckily though we both moved on, so she's someone else's headache, and I'm just running through a different woman every couple months.

The only thing I concern myself with is my relationship with my baby girl.

This embodies my experience in the marriage, as well as common themes I've noticed while dating women of different ethnicities & backgrounds in my teens/late 20's. Different degrees of crazy, but all bat sh1t crazy none the less.

R-iZZy said 🔗 Definitely experienced this, but luckily I never married the bi#ch. But we do share an 18-month-old daughter together. Them dropping the mask during pregnancy is definitely a real thing. Luckily though we both moved on, so she's someone else's headache, and I'm just running through a different woman every couple months. The only thing I concern myself with is my relationship with my baby girl.

Real talk man

I’ve come to a point where I sometimes don’t even want to fu#k a bi#ch I mean I do but I don’t even feel like putting forth physical effort . So I just like to let them suck me off. After that I dnt force them out because they will see my play but I slowly get them out my crib go back to playing 2k like I like and go to sleep in my bed It’s the best thing ever. I dnt knw why but for some reason I use to like staying over broads house in my early 20s. A good 80 percent of they convo be wack . I just be wanting that nut and then to be left alone while I eat .

Man do urself a trick. Don’t eat all day and dnt masturbate . Have a broad come thru get ur nut then stuff ur face . That sh1t gives u some type of chemical high.