Having well-behaved kids is often a concern for parents. But not all adults in every country actually think it’s one the most important things.

Overall, adults in the U.S. are least likely to say that kids having good manners is an especially important quality — just 52% of them said so in 2017, according to a report released this month by King’s College London. That makes the U.S. the country least likely, of the 24 countries surveyed in recent years, to believe good manners are crucial for kids.

This is a significant drop from 1990, when 76% of U.S. adults said it was a very important quality for children to possess, the data shows.

It’s also a stark contrast to the leading country, Egypt, where 96% of those surveyed said good manners should be a top parenting priority. Nigeria comes in second place with 89%, followed by Morocco with 88%.

Sixth-placed U.K. isn’t far off, with 85% saying good manners were key.

The report by King’s College London, titled “Parenting priorities: international attitudes towards raising children,” uses data from one of the biggest social surveys in the world, the World Values Survey. The report is based on the most recently available data sets for each country that were collected during the latest installment of the World Values Survey, which spans 2017-2022.

Another factor that falls under the broader idea of kids being well behaved is if they listen to their parents or other adults. But even fewer U.S. adults said that obedience was a key quality for kids — in fact, it fell far behind in all countries compared with having good manners.

The country that values obedience the most is Nigeria with 58%, followed by Mexico and Egypt with 57% and 56% respectively. The U.S. falls into the second half of the table with 21%.

But it is still far ahead of the country that cares the least about obedience: just 3% of Japanese adults said it was a very important quality for kids.

The importance of obedience has fallen in many Western countries since 1990.

“For example, in both the US and Australia, the share of the public who think this trait is especially important has roughly halved. In the former, it fell from 39% in 1990 to 21% in 2017, and in the latter it dropped from a peak of 39% to 19% between 2005 and 2018,” the report noted.

Beyond being well behaved

The survey doesn’t just cover qualities that make a child well behaved. Attributes such as imagination; having tolerance and respect for others; and being hardworking were also surveyed. A total of 11 qualities are listed in the King’s College London report.

The U.S. places in the top 10 for four of them, showing that it is among the countries that value independence and hard work from kids the most.

Hard work is one of them, with 68% of U.S. adults saying it is important for children. This is the sixth-highest percentage across the 24 surveyed countries and the category where the U.S. places the highest in the ranking.

Poland leads the table with 81%, followed by Russia with 76%. On the flipside, Nordic countries appear to place little value on kids working hard: just 19% of Norwegians and 8% of Swedes said it was crucial, which places them at the end of the ranking.

The second category where the U.S. is part of the top 10 is independence. Of those surveyed, 56% said it was an especially important quality for kids, putting the U.S. seventh in this ranking. The highest-ranking country is Norway with 85%, while Egypt came last with 14%.

The U.S. also ranks in the top 10 for imagination, with 30% seeing it as a highly valuable attribute, and religious faith, which is seen as very important by 32% of those surveyed. That places the U.S. in seventh and 10th place for the respective rankings.

The quality that was most often named as especially important in the survey is tolerance and respect for other people. Of those surveyed, 71% in the U.S. said it was a key attribute kids should have, which places in the 11th position.

Sweden and Norway top this ranking with 93% and 90%, respectively, while Iran places last with 40%.

↪ https://www.cnbc.com/2023 .. t-in-kids.html




original study:
↪ https://www.kcl.ac.uk/pol .. priorities.pdf

Weird people sh1t.

Im always confused on where they find these people for surveys

It really is sad. You can see the de-emphasis on character throughout our society. With the Millenial generation, it's all about self. There is far less concern about others and society as a whole. Everything they think, feel, want, don't want, etc. is all justified and should be co-signed by everybody else.

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I've ground and pounded it into my son's brain, you say "please" when you ask for something. You say "thank you" when you get something. You ask "may I be excused" before you get up from the table. You say "excuse me" when you burp.

We as a society need to build stronger character and morals in our kids. I truly believe that's why we've seen things to go sh1t in the last few decades. Importance is placed on the superficial and materialistic with a sheer departure from building a strong moral character.

ItAlY2BkLyN said 🔗 It really is sad. You can see the de-emphasis on character throughout our society. With the Millenial generation, it's all about self. There is far less concern about others and society as a whole. Everything they think, feel, want, don't want, etc. is all justified and should be co-signed by everybody else. ↪🔗 I've ground and pounded it into my son's brain, you say "please" when you ask for something. You say "thank you" when you get something. You ask "may I be excused" before you get up from the table. You say "excuse me" when you burp. We as a society need to build stronger character and morals in our kids. I truly believe that's why we've seen things to go sh1t in the last few decades. Importance is placed on the superficial and materialism with a sheer departure from building a strong moral character.

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Ifeellikekobe said 🔗 Im always confused on where they find these people for surveys

I don’t know how, but i ended up on some survey list

They call me every once and a while and ask me local New Jersey questions

ItAlY2BkLyN said 🔗

that **** ain't cool, in 10 years we gonna have to deal with them ********.

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Like this is any better

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stop with the hyper partisan bullsh1t. There's trash parents everywhere. It's not a right or left issue. It's a societal issue as I said before.

Who is the authority to say who and what is " well behaved". Every culture is different and it's all subjective.

ItAlY2BkLyN said 🔗 Like this is any better ↪🔗 stop with the hyper partisan bullsh1t. There's trash parents everywhere. It's not a right or left issue. It's a societal issue as I said before.

i never said it was but you seem to have gotten offended

the one i posted are literal teenagers of sound mind literally on camera talking about ki1ling people for existing

erickonasis said 🔗 i never said it was but you seem to have gotten offended the one i posted are literal teenagers of sound mind literally on camera talking about ki1ling people for existing

Not offended. Just irritated that you always try to derail every thread on some partisan bullsh1t. You posted a tweet pushing the "radical right" narrative in a thread about society and lack of manners. I just posted an equal example that shows it's not a political thing.

ItAlY2BkLyN said 🔗 Not offended. Just irritated that you always try to derail every thread on some partisan bullsh1t. You posted a tweet pushing the "radical right" narrative in a thread about society and lack of manners. I just posted an equal example that shows it's not a political thing.

that was a baby that probably heard a song u posted

not someone doing an interview talking about ki1ling people

erickonasis said 🔗 that was a baby that probably heard a song u posted not someone doing an interview talking about ki1ling people

both are children of trash parents parroting what they see and hear which illustrates what this thread was originally about.

Growing up in a rough barrio, you learned you give respect to get respect. That and my parents would fu#k me up if I really came out of pocket.

ItAlY2BkLyN said 🔗 It really is sad. You can see the de-emphasis on character throughout our society. With the Millenial generation, it's all about self. There is far less concern about others and society as a whole. Everything they think, feel, want, don't want, etc. is all justified and should be co-signed by everybody else. ↪🔗 I've ground and pounded it into my son's brain, you say "please" when you ask for something. You say "thank you" when you get something. You ask "may I be excused" before you get up from the table. You say "excuse me" when you burp. We as a society need to build stronger character and morals in our kids. I truly believe that's why we've seen things to go sh1t in the last few decades. Importance is placed on the superficial and materialistic with a sheer departure from building a strong moral character.

Yes, the golden rule: Treat others the way you want to be treated.

Gramz said 🔗 Yes, the golden rule: Treat others the way you want to be treated.

Straight up. Seems like now days, people are all about "you need to earn my respect". Yet still expect people to respect them off jump.

My ppl never let me call them sir or ma’am because they knew that sh1t was cap when my siblings and I said it.

Gramz said 🔗 Growing up in a rough barrio, you learned you give respect to get respect. That and my parents would fu#k me up if I really came out of pocket.

Funny cause I think that comes from you might fu#k around and find out. We in the hood know that you have good manners most people will leave you alone. You act like an a$$hole someone is going to come around and teach you dumba$s a lesson.

Gramz said 🔗 Yes, the golden rule: Treat others the way you want to be treated.

The Gospel of Luke, chapter 6, verse 31
quoting King Yeshua Himself

And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise.

b-b-but Boxden told me Jesus "never existed" and all his quotes are "fairytales"

That's between America preaches individualism and that you're the most important person. Reason why a lot of foreign countries can't stand Americans.

Children learn from their parents.

sounds like their parents were sh1tty and they’re just carrying on tradition.

american/western culture is toxic tho. alot of selfish, entitled, unaccountable, unapologetic and just plain ol ignorant folks thst were molded by it and then reinforced by their parents own sh1tty ideals, directly or indirectly

it seems like it’s way more common to see or meet people who fall into that category today than ever before which is scary when you think what sh1t will be like 10, 20 years from now.

BathWaterMelody said 🔗 The Gospel of Luke, chapter 6, verse 31 quoting King Yeshua Himself And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise. b-b-but Boxden told me Jesus "never existed" and all his quotes are "fairytales"

Yeah, out of the billions of people who have walked the earth only jesus could have come up with that quote. There's no possible way anyone invented the idea of jesus and then wrote a bunch of stories about him in order to spread a narrative.

Cap