The Ultimate "She's Crazy Don't Date or Marry Her" Guide
phase 1: "You’re so smart, funny, handsome, charming and amazing. Honestly, I think you’re perfect and I love you so much! I want to be with you forever, and grow old together. I want to marry you, have at least three babies with you, and make you happy." ~ idealization.
phase 2: "Who is she? Do you like her? You do, don’t you!? Don’t lie to me, I know you do! Did you fu#k her? OMFG! You’re with her right now, aren’t you? I knew from the way you were looking at her t1ts that you would cheat on me with her, you fu#king a$$hole, I hate you so much right now!" ~ devaluation.
phase 3: "Wait, I’m sorry! I didn’t mean to say that! Come back! Please don’t leave me! I love you! ~" fear of abandonment.
phase 4: "I’m so sad, alone and empty, please fu#k me hard! It fills the void and it makes me feel better." ~ chronic feelings of emptiness.
"Do I believe in God? I don’t know. Sometimes I do, other times I don’t. When I feel like a good person, yes, definitely. But what makes someone a good person? Am I a good person? Who am I? OMFG, I have no idea who I am! I will try my best to figure it out one way or another. Hopefully, by the end of my life, I will know." ~ unstable self-image or weak sense of self.
"Oh, I love this song! It makes me feel happy and free! I’m gonna drive faster now. No, not like that! FASTER!!! I adore the feeling of adrenaline pumping through my veins!" ~ impulsivity coupled with reckless behavior.
"I love you so much, you can’t leave me! If you leave, I will ki1l myself! It will be your fault! Can you live with the guilt of my su1cide? You will have nightmares and I’m gonna haunt you beyond the grave, I swear!" ~ frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment, coupled with suicidal behavior or threats.
phase 5: "She doesn’t like me. She never did. I know she was trying to steal him away from me. She hates me, doesn’t she? Dumb bi#ch, I hate her so much!" ~ intense or explosive anger, coupled with stress related paranoid ideation.
- Christina V. Oderschvank, Clinically Diagnosed (BPD w/ASPD)
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from my experience its slightly different. its phase 1, then 4 then 2, then 3, then phase 2 again then 5.
but everything posted is fact.
this is for people who aren't aware they act like this unaware BPD. another group is the self aware BPD which can be managed.
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