But one of the things i don't get is when I see Puerto Ricans, Guyanese and other non African American kids from the hood using the word. Amongst your culture you don't use the word, so why when you get around blacks who do, why would you feel the need to use it too? Its almost like your trying to be down.
I can only speak from my own experience but where I'm from it's dominated by white people. It was natural for all the minorities to be tight. Ever since elementary school when I moved out here (at 6) I hung out with the black kids and other Puerto Ricans. We all sat at the same lunch table, sat in the same section on the bus -- all the way from elementary through HS. So you gotta try and understand this WAS the culture I was raised in.
I don't know if you're speaking to me directly when you said, "Amongst your culture you don't use the word, so why when you get around blacks who do, why would you feel the need to use it too? Its almost like your trying to be down." That couldn't be further from the truth. The Puerto Ricans I knew used the word with the same frequency regardless if a black person was present. Vocabulary didn't change no matter the complexion of the group.
Honestly I gotta say and I'm sure most will agree with me -- you can usually tell when someone is "trying". Fake people always stand out in social situations like this, if someone was trying to "be down" that sh*t will be obvious.