Dee Grande said:
the location of the d!ck isn't central to my point. i just think 'masculine gay man' is an oxymoron
Nor is it central to mine. For the record, there are also gay men who identify as such while being celibate and not participating in any form of s3xual activity, therefore, there is no interaction with any p*nis (not counting their own), so are they deprived of their masculinity even though they may not be effeminate and don't engage in homos3xual behavior?
I understand your point, and thank you for finally stating it in a semi-civil way, but the truth is that there is a strong possibility that you hold that opinion based on limited [conscious] interaction with homos3xual men. If you don't believe me, venture into any community that is the least bit accepting of alternative s3xualities and you will see that a lot of the stereotypes for the LGBTQ community do hold up, but for a significant portion, they do not. Just like any stereotype with any community.
I don't understand a lot of boxden's reaction to this whole Kobe thing. Personally, I don't really care about the incident itself. I'm more concerned with the lack of concession, whether said in the heat of the moment or not, that the word is offensive, hateful, and really should
not have any context on the basketball court. Kobe said what he said, and that is fine because he is human, with his own biases to which he is entitled. But, as a society and as an extension of our communities, what bothers me is the lack of reflection. Because when you really think about it, there's a kid being called a f*ggot right now that will probably attempt suicide within the next forty eight hours. It's a powerful word that exists, and will never stop existing, but I would think that when it is said on a national platform, by a national figure, people would have enough sense to at least acknowledge that the word is hateful and that Kobe was wrong in saying it.