Bruh it seems u dont know enough. Shaking a chick... Body Slamming a chick... Holding her down.......... Even Grabbing her wrists and holding them so that she can not get loose to swing on you again is considered "putting your hands on her". The laws in court are fu*ked up these days.... they will lean more towards the women no matter what. So I dont know what that bullsh*t is that u are talking about. Basically u cant do sh*t but call the police if she wild out on u. Either way you're gonna look like a punk.
What I was saying is that it should never get to that point where some n*gga is just straight up stealing on his bi*ch. By shaking her, restraining her, and even having to throw her to the ground is what could be acceptable. But leaving her all lumped up is some bi*ch sh*t. All these bx heads screaming that they would whoop a chick's a.ss if she put her hands on anyone of them is cowardly. Seriously, it wouldn't take much for them to inflict Chris Brown damage but to justify it by saying she hit you first is immature. Be a man about your sh*t. I'm not saying sh*t doesn't happen but that Rihanna pic was off the hook. In your situation, the bi*ch threatened your life and that's another case but that's not what these kids are talking about and that's were the problem lies.